ItemParenting Positively : Helping Teenagers to Cope with a Parent's Problem Drug or Alcohol Use(Barnardos, 2015) Guiney, ElaineThis booklet is for parents of teenagers who are affected by a parent’s drug or alcohol use. If you are a parent who has a problem with alcohol or drugs, or if your partner has a problem, you may be concerned about how this is affecting your teenager. This booklet is also for any other adult who is concerned about a teenager such as a grandparent, guardian or friend. Children of all ages suffer when a parent has a problem with drugs or alcohol. While a parent might be there physically, for the child it may seem like their mum or dad is not emotionally present. It can cause feelings like confusion, worry, anger, shame or self blame. If a parent has a problem with drugs or alcohol, it can be a complicated issue. Sometimes there can be money problems, family arguments, domestic violence or a breakdown of communication. Life can become chaotic or unpredictable and, for many children, there are serious welfare risks. Every situation is unique, however, and different families can be affected in different ways. 2 All families have strengths and ways of coping with difficulties. As a parent, you are responsible for your child’s well-being and this booklet will help you to support your teenager and build on your strengths. It will help you understand how your child is being affected and give you tips for talking about it and keeping your teen safe. Finding Help at the back of this booklet will link you to helpful services and resources. ItemParenting Positively: Helping Teenagers to Cope with Separation(Barnardos, 2015) Tusla; BarnardosThe most important issue to deal with when separating is your relationship with your children. Although your relationship with your partner is changing, your role as a parent is for life. Your children, whatever their age, need you both to put them first. This booklet is for parents of teenagers who are separating or divorcing. When parents separate, it is a painful and stressful experience for a family. Every family member needs help and support to cope with the emotional consequences and changes it brings. ItemParenting Positively: Helping Teenagers to Cope with Domestic Abuse(Barnardos, 2015) Tusla; BarnardosDomestic abuse is one of the most difficult situations parents and young people can face. It challenges our beliefs and values about family life. The secrecy and stigma that surround it make it difficult for people who experience it to seek help and support. It is hoped that the information in this booklet will in some way help teenagers and parents to live a life free from violence and abuse. It will also help you to understand: The ways domestic abuse affects young people and their development; How to listen to teenagers so that you know what is happening with them; How to talk to your sons or daughters about their experience to help them to understand what is happening in their lives; The impact domestic abuse can have on you as a parent; Steps you can take to try to ensure young people’s safety while dealing with your situation. ItemParenting Positively: Helping Teenagers to Cope with Death(Barnardos, 2015) Tusla; BarnardosEvery person has some experience of death at some point in their lives and teenagers are no exception. They can come into contact with death in their family, in their school and in their community. In addition to experiencing death as a result of illnesses like cancer and heart disease, teenagers are often directly affected by sudden and traumatic deaths like suicide and those resulting from road traffic accidents and fights. Parents cannot shield young people from the reality of these deaths or from the pain of loss but they can help and guide their teenager on their journey through grief with support, information and encouragement. This booklet provides guidance to parents in helping their teenage children. There is information for teenagers on coping with death on www.barnardos.ie/teenhelp ItemParenting Positively: Helping Teenagers to Cope with Bullying(Barnardos, 2015) Tusla; BarnardosThis booklet is for parents of teenagers who may be experiencing or be involved in bullying. It will help you to: Know the tell-tale signs of bullying; Understand the effects of bullying – short term and long term; Find ways to support your teenager through bullying; Find ways to communicate with your teenager if they are involved in bullying behaviour; Find out where you can get help and support. ‘Bullying is repeated aggression, verbal, psychological or physical, racial, sexual or relational, conducted by an individual or group against others.’ Cool School Anti Bullying Programme Bullying is an anti-social behavioural problem which affects thousands of Irish teenagers on a daily basis. It can take the form of verbal bullying, sexual bullying, exclusion bullying, physical bullying and cyber bullying. It may involve physical assaults, harassment or verbal abuse, theft, blackmailing, spreading rumours or deliberately excluding someone from a social group.